Re: Boundaries
My H is not physically or verbally abusive so my need for boundaries with him is probably not like a lot of others. My boundaries are things that I agreed to with myself for me. I'm the only one that has to respect them. Sometimes I find myself disrepecting my own boundaries but I learn from that each time. Here are some of mine:
- I won't have sex with him when he is drinking
- I won't discuss his drinking with him especially when he's drunk
- I won't roll my eyes, sigh giant sighs, stomp around the house in reponse to anything he does or says
- I will concentrate on my peace and won't spend time worrying about what he is doing, what might happen, etc.
- I won't ask him to come home, call me, not drink, etc.
- When I discuss things with him or think about the problems, I do it from my perspective (lots of "I" statements - what I want, think, need.)
- I will not allow what someone else does or says to control me - I'm in charge of my life.
Hope that helps. This is going to be an interesting thread.
L