Having an addict in your life is physically, emotionally, financially and psychologically draining. They will suck the life out of you. As adults, we understand what is going on but continue to hold out for hope of change. But what about the kids? Is it healthy for them to live with the conditions and examples that you as their father, bring into their lives? No matter how much you love her, bottom line is that it is not healthy. I stayed married to an alcoholic/drug user for 23 years and it impacted my son tremendously. He now has emotional scars and issues because of it. If I had to do it over again, I would have terminated the unhealthy, draining relationship many years before it impacted my son.