I am new here & am not as knowledgeable as many on this, but I am slowly learning. Beware. I also thought my AH was sober for the better part of the past year, to recently find out that he has been sneaking liquor (who knows how much) and lying to me about it for who knows how long. Until she seeks treatment she cannot begin to recover. If you stay in this relationship, you cannot help her until you seek treatment as well. Everyone is right when they say "go to Alanon!"