I am also dealing with this issue. My STBXAH is a resident in a sober house and has been for the past month. When I get angry that he couldn't have gotten sober without losing everything, I remind myself that this disease is so progessive that if he drinks again he will die. That pretty much cools the anger and resentment, because I don't doubt that it is totally fatal. As hard as my life is without him, I wouldn't want to trade places with him either. He has a long and very difficult road ahead of him. I pray he makes it, as I don't want my children to grow up without their father in thier lives.
Shotz