Re: A mothers worst nightmare
oh and another thing i just thought of.
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it is really important that your son understands that he is not responsible for what happened to him and that you and every one else knows he is not responsible.
often kids confuse their 'telling' and the associated fuss of interviews, police etc as being their fault, eg they caused a fuss. this is then often translated in their heads as being responsible not only for the telling, the fuss but also the abuse, which of course is not true.
so it is important to let him know that a) yes there is a fuss but that is because he was being responsible in telling what happened to him and telling and causing a 'fuss' is the right thing to do b) the person who is responsible for the abuse and really causing the 'fuss' is his uncle because his uncle hurt him, did a bad thing to him, and his uncles behaviour is what needs to be sorted out etc. he is not responsible for his uncles actions etc, his uncle is the adult etc etc etc
i hope this makes sense
cheers and good luck
kath