Originally Posted by
ZombieWife 
Your family may never accept her. And she may never feel "respected" by your family.
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I totally agree with this, there is a member of my home group with this exact problem. And in his case his wife is & has been clean & sober for several years now, but the family dynamics (his parents& sibs) are not good.
So tread very carefully before making any long-term commitment.
IMHO, option#A