Thanks, but what puzzles me is that when she is occupied (with me) for like 5 days straight she doesn't get trashed at all. Trashed only happens when she is alone. Thats why I wanted her to move in for a month - see if she can not be trashed for a month. I guess you think not, that she will not be able to go a month but for whatever reason I think she may be able to do it..the other way is that we alternate seeing each other every other night and all, it would serve the same purpose. Its funny because I once thought that when I fell asleep that she would go hit the bottle hard - that hasnt happened...
It's just that I see posts on here to stay and then some to leave (like firestorm) which makes it very confusing - I am confused enough with all this. This will be something I bring up at Al Anon tonight if I get the chance.
She reiterated again that all she wants is love and friendship from this relationship - that I should not be in the relationship to fix anything.