I am so sorry you are having a difficult time with your Mom while you are trying to get clean. I think it might help you to remember that she is still in the grips of addiction, and we are not our normal selves when we are using. Having said that, I agree with your husband. Your daughter, and YOU also, don't need to be around anyone who is high, even if it is your Mom. Tell your Mom that you love her, but your sobriety is the most important thing to you. If you are not clean and sober, you can't even be a good Mom to your baby girl! Congratulations for coming into recovery, despite the circumstances. You might have to love your Mom from a distance until she gets clean herself, and know that it may never happen. Don't feel guilty for wanting a better life for yourself, your daughter and husband.
Cathy