Hello sofardown. Welcome to the site. I have read that story before and thought it was so true. It's hard having a son on drugs no matter how you look at it. When my son put himself in rehab I went to counciling and alanon. That really, really helped me. I had no idea how codependant I was at all. My hubby joined me and it was so hard to admit to myself the damage I had done but helping my son all the time. Things are pretty good here now but I still live day by day. The pain of the last few years has really changed the way I look at life now and its so sad.....addiction knocked the wind out of me but I'm thankful my son is alive and productive and sooooo sorry for what he has put us through. I'm HOPING I can believe that. Be good to yourself and try and get your hubby to some meetings... Smiles, Bonnie