(((((norty))))
I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. Go ahead and have a good cry. Get it out of your system. Focus on gratitude for being able to be there for them. Find out if there's anything you can do for them, like bringing food, helping them with errands, that sort of thing.
I've lost several dear friends recently to cancer. I feel very blessed they let me visit with them and laugh. Yes, laugh. Take some funny DVD's to watch to with them. Be there to clean out the fridge or scrub down their bathrooms. It's small stuff but helps them and you. If they have any appetite, bring some tasty snacks when you visit. Offer to do the laundry or take out the trash.
That's how I handled it. I am still grateful they let me of service to them.
Hang in there, honey. We are here for you as needed. Hope this helps.
Love,
Lenina