(((Dolce)))
You are not wrong to refuse to put yourself into a toxic situation once more.
As a child, you had few choices and fewer resources.
Today, that's not the case.
And you have no obligation to feed yourself to the lions, so to speak.
Whatever happens between your mom and her BIL,
is between them.
It sounds very disfunctional,
and like a classic case of msogyny,
the way uncle treats you and mom,
but, not brother and dad.
He's sick. Let him stew in his own illness.
You don't have to be part of it.
It must hurt very badly still.
And I'm sorry.
Please try and get some assistance to get over this pain.
You didn't deserve it then,
and you don't deserve it now.
And if your dad continues to support his brother,
Just realize that life is not always fair.
But, that *you* can move on
ANd break this cycle of abusive behavior
By refusing to accept it anymore.
I wish you well.
Please let us know how it goes.
Shalom!