Originally Posted by
Mambo Queen 
On the other hand, I really feel I'm doing the right thing right now, after a while of doing the wrong thing by giving too much (potentially) false hope. I'm disappointed in myself that it took another man for me to see that, but part of me feels he was sort of sent by God to me for exactly that purpose.
Trust yourself, here, Mambo Queen. You can feel what is healthy. You know what works for you and what doesn't. That's a HUGE step. No need for disappointment in yourself - life's not always elegant, but you're getting the job done.
Keep telling yourself that you deserve to be happy. Keep telling yourself that your STBXAH's happiness is none of your concern.
That's the truth.
You're going to be just fine!
Hugs to you!
-TC