I agree. How many times did you feel sad and heartbroken because of his actions? You didn't cause any of this. He did. It's called life with consequences. Less communication with the old guy, and be nice to the new one. I divorced exAH nearly 5 years ago, and old high school friend came and found me too. He's such a sweetie, and I know we both deserve this new shot at love. Have fun! Really! It's okay.