Grief is maybe the ultimate person experience. I have been laid low by young, unexpected death twice in my life. Both times it was a struggle just to keep breathing. I had a "best girl friend" the last time who became concerned because I went to the cemetery everyday for the first year. She came to me at some point and said "I know you are sad, but it is past time to move on, this is unhealthy". To this day I am sure it is the dumbest thing anyone has every said to me.
((Grateful)) ((Marie A)), hugs for you both. I am sorry you hurt.