I agree with Kindeyes-- when I started just saying "Hunhhh." and "Oh." to my alkie bros in conversations it made 99% of their blame games with me evaporate.
*Poof*
I wasn't playing anymore.
So yes anubus they are masters at turning the blame around - but if we don't even engage then we don't set ourselves up for manipulation/argument/feeling defensive.
Are you ready/willing/desiring to stop the merry-go-round? You've got the on/off switch. It is in YOUR hands!
peace,
b