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Old 04-01-2009, 07:36 AM
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ABF and I talked about beer again last night and again this morning. He likes to blame my feelings on the matter on my history with my mom and my struggles with her drinking.

This morning I said: What if this isn't about my mom, what if this is just about you. How about I think you drink too much.

To which he replied: I'm willing to work with that, we can get through that and work on it.

What does that even mean?

He's molding me into the enabler he needs me to be, yeah?

This is all coming about because I'm supposed to be signing my divorce papers in an hour, my x was a verbal abuser who has undergone therapy and is consistent with meds and is actively trying to reconcile with me.

ABF knows some small part of me thinks about reconciling and that the thought is driven by the only conflict we have: beer.

Now I'm just flat out confused. I have a 2 year old daughter with my x and although I don't feel like I love him like I did.. it may be worth trying again now that he's been in therapy for almost a year.

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