Mending, I'm 3.5 wks. into breakup with GF who has been told is bipolar, definitely has OCD and I suspect has BPD... no therapy and she got off meds a few months ago... it was a year of... inconsistencies and me thinking I was losing my mind. That's the only way I can explain it. In the beginning I gave her the benefit of the doubt, blamed myself for... misunderstandings, miscommunications, stuff. But after a while, I realized something was wrong, same stories with different outcomes, all talk no substance, no communication about her needs, I asked repeatedly what she needed, she never said. And then outbursts about it being all about me... and lots of anger. It was so frustrating. I got into CoDA because of her. Thank god I have my CoDA tools to help me stay away, but it's the hardest thing to do, my CoDA is flaring up, guilt over leaving someone I love who is ill, but who isn't taking responsibility. And I'm just not strong enough to deal for her and for me. Stay strong.
elena