Welcome to SR Grayhair! Sorry that you are going through this-
but you have come to a great place! We are here for you and trust me long rants are healthy so please continue to do so!
Check out our Friends & Family forum
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
And also please feel free to check out others as well! There are stickies at the top of the forums that are filled with a wealth of information that will help you.
Al Anon as stated is another great source to look into for yourself. Keep coming back and posting! We are glad that you are here!