greyhair,I suggest you find a face to face ala non meeting in your town and start attending.
Looks like she is getting sicker and sicker.I am a alcoholic,and my wife went to ala non
before I got sober,and it did play a part in getting me to AA sooner.
More important,it helped her get better.I was making her sick with all my drinking and behavior.
feel free to email me at
oldhippietommy
at
***** dot com
if my wife or I can help.
Tommy