Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
callie, do you see how your own attitude towards HIS problems have slipped into enabling ways?
HE has court fees. HE needs a job. HE needs to man up. and i fear m'dear, none of that will happen as long as he has callie to take care of everything FOR him.
but he's not. is he? he has a buffer - he's insulated from the REAL world.
OK, I get it. Initially he did take charge of all of this, but we were both under the assumption that he was going back and somewhere along the line he just started slacking.
I get my part in this, what do I do to enforce the boundaries NOW. Set a time line for him to get things in order?
My boundaries are to:
--get on a schedule with sleep, work etc.
--get your $hit together financially as best as you can
--look for a job
--get into some kind of recovery program.
My only option is to send him back to his moms, which is the most toxic place on earth for him to be. Do I really kick him out after he's come so far? Is there another alternative that's safer for his recovery?
Thanks guys
