A week after I quit drinking, my on again off again husband did as well. I talked extensively about why I quit, he never said a word. I asked him yesterday and he said pretty much what I thought he would, that he quit because I did.
At this point, I don't think he will ever do any work on his recovery, or that he even believes he had a problem (and boy oh boy did he). I know its not healthy, and I can only work on me right now but. . .
We moved to this city for me. We took in stray kids because I wanted to. We have packs of dogs because I wanted to. Every important decision made is him following my lead, and right now I am pretty uncomfortable with it.
being on the flip side of it, having somebody 100% dependent on me for their feelings and thoughts is not good, even though I think I used to look at it like "he would do anything for me".
Just wanted to share, hugs to you all
S.G, I am so sorry to hear about your son. I hope he finds his way out soon.