Over in the Alcoholism Support thread, just now, there is a nice discussion of 'God of our own understanding'. There are some really great thoughts there which make it pretty clear that it does not matter what 'God of our understanding' means to you, as long as: 1) you come up with an understanding and 2) that HP is much bigger than you.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...stand-him.html
us adult kids want nothing more to do with being controlled
Now I know why everyone's so much better dressed at alanon meetings than ACoA or AA meetings (and I look like a slob).