I agree with Anvilhead in going with the activities or social settings that interest you. The best friendships I have had in my life have started out of a class I took, a book club I went to, a shop I frequented, a park where our dogs introduced us, or a barn where our horses were boarded.
Some were just aquaintences who made great mixed company for a holiday party and others turned into the people I still turn to and who turn to me when everything goes, shall we say, t!ts up.
In the last few years since I have stopped working in an office setting and have physically moved away from my friends and family, I have become rather hermit like. I am dreaming of getting out there again and making new friends and finding a social circle again. I know it will take work, anything good does, but without my ABF dragging behind me like an anchor, I think I can make a go of it.
I hope this lonely feeling passes for you and you are suddenly just too busy for us on SR!
Alice