Re: Help! I feel so alone and unsupported . . .
He is supposed to take medication for Adult ADHD, but does not take it on a regular basis, especially if he has been drinking, in fact, he is completely out and has not really made an effort to get more. He puts it all in my hands (enabling or helping him out?).
Was thinking as I read... the ADHD causes some behaviors. For you to help in that area, I wouldn't see it as enabling. Putting things in your hands could be... he keeps forgetting himself so he adjusts to what he knows works. Some would look at it as manipulation, others would look at it as survival skills.
In my opinion... hold him accountable to the degree you know he can handle. Till he starts taking his pills would he remember to get them when there is time to get them? Remember them as the head hits the pillow? Ahhh I remeber what I was to do today.
You know him best. Prayers with you as you find what works the best.