Jason - how about we just swap? I got an empty room you can sleep in. lol
You know you're right about the generation thing. I think every generation has said "what's wrong with these kids." I grew up in the 80s and it was crazy - we were the lost generation - we had no causes except to party. The only difference I see is that we were more afraid of authority and authority had more power back then - they could search you - heck they could still spank you in school and no one would have tried to get away with using/selling in school - that was done off-campus. Drugs were harder to get back then and they werent as strong - it was alcohol that was easy to get because the laws werent as strong back then - dui and selling to minor laws were not enforced back then - especially for girls. Kinda makes you think that the whole "just say no" and other drug campaigns in school just dont work. the other difference is we didnt see the things you guys have seen in media - these lifestyles werent in our face as much as they are now.
Amy you're right, he doesnt think about consquences tomorrow - he always thinks what he is going through is the worst (victim) and doesnt think about the rest. Before all the trouble he would say he wanted out of the house no matter what - even told me to call the police and take him to jail just so he could get out. in jail, he said he'd rather be on house arrest, on house arrest he'd rather be in rehab, in rehab he'd rather be in jail. He just thinks he's unhappy because of where he is instead of realizing he's unhappy because of who he is.
Chino - that is interesting - the kid did have a lot of injuries when he was young. He was walking by 8 months old and by 10 months old was already trying to escape through windows (first floor thank goodness) - we had lots of ER trips and lots of stiches. But he has had several brain scans - the YDC and the mental hospital both did very thorough medical tests including brain and heart. He's seen a lot of specialists over the last two years. We know his drug use has caused some damage but they didnt see any old damage.
I think this is all genetics and the drugs have helped to trigger those genetics and bring them out. I think this because he is excactly like his dad - his dad abandonded him but the similarities are almost spooky. You would expect it if he was raised by this man but I didnt expect it with him being out of his life. It even freaks his uncle out who feels sometimes like he's looking at his brother's actions - we've discussed it a lot over the years not just recently. His dad was in prison by the time he was 18 and is just a vagabond now - living and doing whatever it takes to support his alcoholism. The difference is his Mom enabled him all his life and still does - I hope my son decides eventually to take another path and start to grab onto the genetics that he got from me because those are there too.
you know, I laugh about all of this but I really hurt for him. I just dont know what else i can do but try to the make the best of it and try to not let it bring me down too much. the stronger and calmer i am the more i get through to him so i have to be a rock right now. I also know that this may never end with him and i'm trying to get myself mentally prepared if he does decide to continue down this path. I can only go by who he is today and today he's pretty a pretty confused kid.