I'm sorry she is falling into bad patterns, and my prayers go out for her.
It struck me that you are from Toronto where I lived for 20 years. I pictured the court room (been there done that) and can tell you the reason that others did not have family there may be because their family could no longer watch them like that. That's how it was for me, I couldn't stand to visit jail or sit in court and watch my son come out in shackles so I stopped doing it.
I can't remember if you go to meetings or not, but if you are looking for a terrific meeting, CoDA has a wonderful fellowship there and can help you more than you know. Here's a list of meetings. Call Marion (the contact person) and confirm times and places, they sometimes change and don't update the web page. Also, the Sunday Step Study is usually for people who commit to this ahead of time and may not be the best place for a newcomer.
CoDA Wednesday Step Group - caon305
Wednesday 7:00 PM
Bloor Street United Church
300 Bloor Street West (2 blocks east of Spadina)
Special Instructions: Room 31
Step
Contact Person: Marion 416-503-0456
12 Step/Tradition Workbook Group - caon308
Sunday 6:00 PM to 7:00 PM
Trinity St Paul’s
427 Bloor Street Suite 110
Special Instructions: Spadina & Bloor
Steps and Traditions / Wheelchair accessible
Contact Person: Marion 416-503-0456 / Lydia 416-461-7437
Fearless Fridays - caon
Friday 7:00 PM
Bloor Street United Church
300 Bloor Street West
Special Instructions: Room #31, Top of the staircase at building front
12 Steps / Wheelchair accessible
Contact Person: Sam 416-786-2056