I see your dilemma.
I assume his kids are not your kids? Don't live with you? And I assume this isn't the first time this has happened?
If you file a report, you feel you may face his wrath if he's arrested.
But being arrested may get him to jail, where he might find his bottom.
And getting another drunk driver off the streets for a while is never a bad thing...you may feel terrible if he kills someone with his car.
If you don't file a report, you're taking a safer route for yourself. Keeping the status quo, keeping your mouth shut...safer. I understand the lure of that too....you know that either way, a missing person's report won't save him from his actions. If he's hurt, he's still hurt. If he's shacking up somewhere, he's still there. Drunk in an alley, the police won't find him any sooner than they would anyway.
Hugs to you to get through these tough choices.
I'd certainly keep packing his stuff. You need this kind of life like you need a hole in the head (my dad used to say). And get ready to change those locks and get a restraining order. This is a battle for your own happiness and freedom...and LOTS of people win it. You can be one of them.
