Thought I'd point this out, you mentioned reading 'some of' the TRD books, the last in the series, volume 4, has a chapter devoted to counseling. The author points out that often times, the professional comes from a very dysfunctional background themselves, and will give you bad advice. Something to think about, it does make sense, what better profession for a codependent to have, always 'helping' people, as the author mentions.
LOL, I have to say that I've always thought that the people I've known, who've gone on to study counselling, are those who could most benefit (IMO: which obviously means knowt) from HAVING counselling, and I wouldn't want to pay for them to work out their issues at my time of need......
but that can't be true for all of them, its a small sample, and I know some very unhealthy people (like attracts like....)