Hi-
I am sorry to hear that.
It is so awful to have your sleep routine disturbed. I have had this problem off and on over the last couple years and it can really affect every area of your life. It is so hard to feel/be emotionally and spiritually healthy when you are physically falling apart from lack of true rest. Having your days and nights turned around is no fun at all!
It is actually more common than people realize. I guess I would see if your husband would be willing to talk with you, or a therapist about what he is experiencing.
I have come to realize that nightime for me as a child was the most unsafe time ever. I was not actively aware of what had taken place until recently(the trauma of what happened to me was too much for me to bear recalling and still be able to function). I hope this is not the case for your husband. If it is possible he was harmed in the night, I would help him embrace that, and help him work that through. It can be a bit complicated because it is your body remembering, and not nessecarily your mind. Even though it's terrible and I hate it, I have learned to listen to what my body is saying and help it release this terror/fear it has held in for so many years. Sometimes it is just as you said..my body will fight to stay awake at all costs but as soon as the sun starts to rise I can sleep like a baby. Talking about what happens at bedtime, among other things, has really helped in so many ways. Although I am not at the end yet, I know there will be one. I have great confidence that I will someday soon experience safety and rest at night like everyone else. I know if I had never looked further into the problem it would have likely plagued me off and on for the rest of my life.
Much love to you and your husband
