CatsnDogs.....what is the reason you separated from your AH in the first place?
And.....has that situation changed? Or has he indicated that he will change it? Or even consider it?
Sometimes people are just not compatible. I myself couldn't live with someone who abused alcohol, was emotionally needy, and couldn't handle his finances -- I wouldn't last a week.
The biggest dealbreaker for me is always whether someone else is willing to work on themselves as hard as I'm willing to work on US. If not, that's a huge sign that I am burnin' daylight with them and am just courting frustration.
Trust your gut. And consider redirecting the cost of those joint sessions into more sessions for yourself. You are DOING the hard work of improving, and it sounds like you're on the verge of something wonderful, but your heart is still trapped in this unchanging situation.
