nalla
Girl...I can relate...My husband did all the things your husband is doing. He opened his own checking account, and totally cut me off. But, he had good reason, I mean, I was spending every dime on pills/coke. I lied so much about paying bills, (didn't), buying groceries, (didn't), etc. I'm shy of 6 months clean, and he still don't trust me 100%. He's been out of town now for about 6 weeks and I've had to get his paychecks, so thats a big step in the trust dept. for him...and for me!
What I'm saying is, your husband and family will come around, it's just gonna take time.
You keep doing what you're doing and you'll get there...I promise.
:ghug3