Update, moved on and let it go. Thank you to those who offered some support to my questions. I have spoken with his brother, and this is typical of him. ..with many more hurtful stories. Apparently, they went for two years not speaking, and he said you never know what you will get. At least I have some peace of mind, and know it is time for me to move forward. He self medicates on top of the meds. I did not see this. Good hiding techniques! He seemed so together for about three months. Then the switch flipped,and he has disappeared permanently. Anyone feel like just running away and never speaking again? Hard to understand. I do not mind that he would want to leave ....but tell me what you need.!!! It is frustrating. Communication was an attraction initially.