Originally Posted by
Barbara52 
I have learned to just let the unhealthy responses from others fall on deaf ears. I am not responible for their response to what I say. I am not responsible for making them happy. I am responsible for making sure my needs are met and sometimes that means saying no to some friend's invitation and doing something just for me. I have no reason whatsoever to feeling guilty for taking care of me.
Agreed 100% with Barbara.
And, I might add, I hate passive-aggressive behavior as much as you do, and as a result, those people don't last long in my life nowadays. I'm not interested in being treated like that by so-called "friends."
You are a kind person, kimmie. These people evidently think it's acceptable to try to hurt your feelings for their own benefit.
In any case, it is a reflection on THEM, not on you. See appleblaster's signature line above
:ghug3