Welcome, dslalonde
you have gotten a lot of good advice so far..
over in the forum: Friends and Family of Substance Abuse, you will find many parents who have walked and are walking the path you are on..
I am a mother of an alcoholic daughter...
I would strongly suggest you find a Face to Face Al-Anon or Naranon meeting for you.
The guilt is a killer, but you did not cause this, you can't love him well, and its his job to fix himself, and the sooner he sees that you get that,..the sooner he will realize his life is his responsibility.
This is a heartbreaking road we travel, and not for weenies... but if you want to help, keep the focus on you and get out of the way...let him fall....
my most powerful moment as a parent of an addict, was realizing the harm I was doing by being part of the problem, and not part of the solution..
good luck and keep reading here and posting...we care..
Last edited by grateful2b; 03-12-2009 at 11:53 AM.