Originally Posted by
grewupinabarn 
I could have written a long letter to my father telling him that I hated his addiction, wanted him to find recovery, and that I love him.
He would have looked at it, shrugged, and walked away.
No impact.
Ya -- what drives me nuts about my dad is that all the years of booze (and cigs, which he still smokes) have apparently had no effect on his health -- or at any rate, he's still in pretty good shape for an 89-year-old. So if someone were to send him The Letter™, he could shrug it off and say, "What kind of cr*p is that? Look how healthy I am!" And I'd have to admit, he'd be right -- about that part.
The behavior, control, manipulation, and all that -- those are there, in spades, and they turned my sister and me into... that ACoAs that we are. But in terms of effects on my dad's health, there isn't much to talk about. Don't ya
hate it when they can do that? :uzi2:
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