Originally Posted by
Fubarcdn 
Do you really feel remorse from the incidents with these people?
Yes. I do feel remorse about how things went with 2 people in my life (outside of my marriage).
At the time of the incidents (intense conversations, one pretty big fight) I apologized. With both people, I believe that things are "okay" and I believe that they accepted the apology that I gave them at the time of the disagreements. However, now that I've been sober for a while and I'm starting to understand the impact that things I said while drunk had on other people, I'm feeling new remorse and guilt and am wondering if I need to go back NOW - with a clearer mindset and a more humble heart - and acknowledge that my wrongdoing was probably greater than I was willing to admit at the time.
I'm confident that the people remember these times, I'm just pretty sure that they both consider the matters old history that's already been taken care of. So at this point am I supposed to make amends to THEM or ask MYSELF for forgiveness?
Does that make sense?