Yeah Flwr. "hard life", we enablers are the ones in victim roles but that "hard life" one also portrays the addict as a victim of their circumstances.
Poor me, got it tough, green light to drink and destroy, because others will never notice my alcoholism, when I drink it will be "social", and the only ones who may get close enough to notice my sickness, if they still have any sanity in them, will part. Leaving me alone with my bottle until someone else falls for my lies. Poor me.
Bleahh!!