dear anabus-
as a christian, we are taught to turn the other cheek, to help our neighbor, to love our enemy: to love our brother as ourselves. it might seem contrary to this teaching to abandon your ABF to the consequences of his behavior and choice.
in dealing with my ABF, I too pray to God to guide me in helping my brother. many people must learn their lessons in the “school of hard knocks”. it is most unfortunate that many must hit the very bottom until they finally cry out in their despair and poverty of spirit for help.
oftentimes, in prayer, we have a personal agenda. for example, “dear god, please help ABF see the harm and destruction of his choice on those who love him.”
the problem here is that we have imposed our will onto the situation, the right attitude is always “Thy will, not mine”.
I feel peaceful to abandon my ABF to god’s will, and in my personal case, that means for me to step aside and permit the school of hard knocks to be his teacher.
marie