Feeling sorry for the alcoholic is one of the worst things we can do.
My AD has made her own choices, poor though they may be.
I don't feel sorry for her when she ends up in jail.
I don't feel sorry for her when she gets kicked out of yet another house due to her chaotic lifestyle.
I don't feel sorry for her that she's chosen to work the system to get disability, thereby sitting on her duff the rest of her life.
I have turned her over to God, and left her there.