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I may be reading too much between the lines but are you perhaps thinking that when he hits rock bottom he will understand he is an alcoholic and have a spiritual awakening?

If so, the only problem with that thinking is that his rock bottom may be drinking himself to death and you may end up spending the rest of his life, hoping that things will change.

Keep going to Al-Anon. The steps and slogans are for your happiness, not to manipulate the alcoholic. Just so as you know I'm not criticising you, I have done a similar thing before I understood the program.