Old 03-06-2009, 04:02 AM
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Seren
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Please look after yourself. I know that it is hard this must be for you, but imagine this scenario.....

He is forced to deal with the consequences of his actions. He has to either pay for or dismiss his attorney. He has to walk/take the bus to work. He has to fill out job applications or unemployment forms for himself. He has to decide if his drinking is worth all of the problems it is causing.

You get a good night's sleep. You wake up refreshed and go to work. You tell him that you know he can handle all of this for himself because he is a perfectly competent adult. You allow him to gain that confidence in himself. You allow yourself to feel at peace by removing yourself from his drama.

Huge hugs to you! I hope everything will settle down for you soon. :ghug3

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