anubus-
i'm new here too and i am continually amazed at how my ABF does the same thing as all the others! i thought it was just him! but now i understand that it is the alchohol.
is your boyfriend still drinking?
i too bailed mine out of jail 3 times for driving stuff. i couldn't bare the thought of him in jail at the time. it cost me a lot of money to get him out but i was happy to do it at the time.
you know what, he didn't even thank me. and now, that he has bled me financially, he doesn't even give me enough money to buy our food.
if i was you, i would go no contact with both the mother and him. it might be best if you have no idea what the status of his court dealings are. if you remain in contact with the mother, you will continue to be drawn into the drama.
marie