You know, when I was with my ex, I didn't have realize how crazy I had become. I spent so much time worrying about what he was doing, how he would be, that I didn't notice that I was just... consumed with it. I never even worried about myself, and honestly, I think I was much worse off than him. (For the record: we broke up, and he is just fine, as am I.)
best of luck to you. The particulars of your situation are not making total sense to me, but I hope everything turns out ok.