I always take AS's direction on things like hugs and what we're going to talk about. I never fully know what mood he'll be in when I see him - it all depends on the stage he's in and how counseling has been going. In the beginning we didnt touch at all but now he usually grabs me and gives me a big hug. I saw him yesterday to drop off some things he needed at rehab and he probably hugged me four times in 10 minutes but it took us quite a while to get to that point.
I never bring up the subject of how treatment is going - if he wants to share he will and then we can talk about that - even then i try to keep my opinions to myself becuase he is still learning and has a long way to go - its up to him to do it there so my opinions dont really matter. I think my role in this is more to just be a reminder that there is life after rehab - that there are people who love him and that he does still have me in his life.