Hey sailor John, I never see you post often, but I assume that I get the jist of what you are saying......
believe it or not, when I have split it off with the abf, I have done the same thing.
I one day saw him- (from quite a distance comming toward my car/the opposite direction on a street) I put my visor down, sunglasses on, and sunk down somewhere low enough to barely peer over the steering wheel....
For me, it was self preservation- I knew if he saw me, he'd at a minimum, call... and then the flood of emotion would start all over again..... and eventually it did happen, and that is why I am here today.
I think that it is good that you ran and hid......
Better to be safe than sorry...
Take care,
cessy