((Macgirl))) - I truly hope you hit your bottom with him, before he destroys you, because I think he has the potential to do it.
I understand your thinking, that the sober him is worth hanging onto. I just don't think you realize that you may not see that side of him again, for a long, long time..if ever. Or if you do, it will only be in glimpses...that what you see, now, is the best it's going to be.
I do hope that you can focus on what YOU want, instead of how to "handle this better"..what makes YOU happy..totally apart from anything that's going on with him. We each have our own lives, apart from our mates or significant others. Try focusing on YOU, and let him deal with him.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy