I'd say what your describing are symptoms of addiction and not personality traits.
This could be. I never really thought of it that way. Addiction character traits, perhaps? What I find interesting is I did this while drinking of course, but complained and whined about my life even when I was sober. When I worked on the symptoms of why I drank, I stopped this behavior. I just no longer had the desire to complain about my life in the same manner. I guess that must have been when I discovered how to become accountable for my behavior and put my anger and resentments behind me. Acceptance is so pivotal in recovery.