Originally Posted by
escape artist 
the al-anon program is meant to be for positive growth with the premise that as we grow and change and "improve" then the alcoholic has to change as well.
I thought the AlAnon program was to help
us recover from the effects of alcoholism in our families, regardless of what the alcoholic does? My AH has no desire to change and, as far as I can tell, our marriage breaking up has made no difference to his drinking. Yet, I still think of Al Anaon as being appropriate for those in my situation.