When I read these post, I find it comforting, yet scary to see that non recovering addicts use the same exact tricks and manipulative tools.... I wish I had seen all this before. It baffles me my to realise that my self esteem must have been so low that not only did I tolerate his behavior, but also blamed myself for being upset with it....
It still continues the usual bargain thing: he is nice, helpful but expects something in return, as in, me moving back with him. I know that if I don't, then he will say that I am never satisfied with anything and that nothing he could do would be enough for me... Well, whatever, I don't really care anymore what he thinks about me. I know what I think about myself....