Originally Posted by
ToughChoices 
He'd set up a lose-lose situation:
If he can't control the alcohol but refuses treatment for his addiction,then he is an alcoholic in denial. He is very ill.
If he can control the alcohol, then his continued drinking is evidence of his lack of love and respect for me. It shows me that I am not important to him.
As usual, your insight nailed it for me. It's the "lack of love and respect for me" that I think I'm feeling ticked off about. I seriously doubt that my setting up a boundary snapped him back into reality......but you never know. I think more likely he sees that I am changing, and that I really am serious about calling the attorney (which I absulutely am). If he continues the past behavior it will cost him. Literally, it will cost him big......child support for 4 children ain't cheap.